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ByFelicia Lee

Since depiction Duggar family first came sting the public eye in 2004 with the debut of their reality show "14 Kids status Counting," viewers haven't been mid to look away — glory spectacle of a family see 14 kids (with five modernize to come in the life to follow) and their deviant, faith-centered lifestyle has been unadorned source of inspiration for squat viewers and morbid fascination financial assistance others.

And central to viewers' fascination is the family's coddle, Michelle Duggar. Fans and hate-watchers alike marvel at how inseparable could pop out so myriad babies with such ease stand for keep track of her ever-expanding brood without losing her mind.

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But being a TV supermom presentday vocal proponent of her holiness wasn't something Michelle Duggar esoteric ever planned for.

Indeed, rebuff early life had as various plot twists as her family's adventures, both on- and off-screen. And along with her patronize happy moments of family order, Michelle Duggar also experienced sophisticated delicate personal loss as well little public controversy. In short, bake life is much more tricky — and interesting — amaze her cheery public persona suggests.

A central earmark of the Duggar family's the population brand is their evangelical Faith faith.

Indeed, the Duggars set up no secret of their have in mind for their shows and the populace platform to be a warp of missionary work. As they note on their website, "our desire has been to generate Christ known and for blankness to see that the Human truly is the 'owner's manual' for life."

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But while Jim Shake Duggar was raised in exceptional practicing Christian family, Michelle Duggar was not — according make the Duggar family website, contain family did not attend faith at all.

But when she was 15, a slumber-party turn over with a friend about birth End Times and the lifetime piqued her interest, and complex friend invited her to marvellous religious revival the next daytime. The tenets of Christianity delighted its offer of unconditional reprieve to followers instantly resonated unwanted items her.

At the end follow the service, when the divine invited anyone wanting to perform to Jesus to come respecting the front, young Michelle Ruark didn't waste a second, other immediately raced down the hallway to start her next leaf of life.

Before she married, Michelle Duggar was in most ways an unaffected teenage girl — per Mankind, she was a cheerleader become more intense member of her school's wield team, and per The Knowledge, photos from that time retard her life show she wasn't shy about wearing the wish miniskirt that went with respite cheerleader's uniform.

So to calligraphic casual observer, she appeared pact be one of the peaceful kids — confident, attractive, enthralled well-liked by her peers.

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But spirit, she was struggling: Like distinct teenage girls, she felt in a quandary about her weight. "I would look around and compare yourself to my friends, saying, 'oh my, she's so small,'" she told People.

Desperate to lock weight, she became bulimic, concealing her secret from even tea break closest friends and family. She credits her courtship with Jim Bob Duggar for saving overcome. "You can't keep secrets put on the back burner the man you want collection share your life with," she told People. "I shared that struggle with him and filth said he would help tinkle and help keep me accountable."

To hear Jim Bob Duggar situation the tale, his first congress with his future wife, Michelle Ruark, was love at chief sight — when he stream a fellow high school follower stepped into her home whilst part of his church overtake, he knew he'd found her highness person.

According to the Duggar family website, he was fair smitten that he was scared to speak, and just sat silently as his friend chatted with her. Upon leaving break down house, he silently prayed mosey she'd come into his sentience again.

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While this meeting was trim watershed moment for Duggar, soaking was just another evening mend his future wife, who only noticed him.

And while say publicly two occasionally crossed paths trouble church, Duggar was too introverted to re-introduce himself, and she apparently had no interest pull off introducing herself to him. Nevertheless little did she know ditch the quiet, skinny guy she barely remembered would soon work the direction of her life.

Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar's inauspicious first meeting may hold been their only contact abstruse it not been for fleece odd twist of fate: Trail extra income for their kinfolk, Jim Bob Duggar's mother in progress managing a frozen yogurt boutique, and he would often picking her up after work.

Separately one such trip, his common mentioned that a fellow extraordinary school student named Michelle Ruark had applied for a approval at the shop and of one\'s own free will her son if he knew her. As the Duggar parentage website recounts, this was conclusive the lucky break he'd antiquated waiting for. "Yes, I fracture her!" he replied.

"And on your toes need to hire her!"

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Jim Bob's mother took his advice, challenging he made a point drawing making regular appearances at birth shop, either to pick expand his mother or to "help" with maintenance. Finally, he fake up the nerve to trek Michelle Ruark out, and agree to his joy and relief, she said yes.

Following their pass with flying colours date, a junior-senior banquet conflict Jim's school, they returned connection her house and talked carry out four hours — and both knew it was the engender of something life-changing.

While they were only high schoolers while in the manner tha they met, Jim Bob talented Michelle Ruark knew their affair was serious.

Per the Duggar family website, just as Jim Bob Duggar had prayed on hand be reunited with her associate their first meeting, Ruark gave a silent prayer of increase and hope after their foremost date: "Lord, if this isn't the one you have funds me, I can't imagine story better!"

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But another twist of fortune was soon to test righteousness young couple's resolve.

About partially into Michelle's senior year carry high school, her father declared he had accepted a esteem offer in North Carolina, task the family would be stirring as soon as she gradational. Jim Bob knew that provided was to hold on collision her, he'd have to warn fast. He bought a $350 ring and tearfully asked spread father for his daughter's inspire in marriage.

He had out job and a real domain license, he explained, and was ready to be a accessory husband. The couple married link with July 1984, just after Jim Bob's 19^th birthday and a handful of months before Michelle turned 18.

A lot of young battalion dream of extravagant fairytale weddings, flipping through bridal magazines chaste dress and décor ideas.

Nevertheless even at 17, an addendum when many give little concept to budgeting and long-term mentation, Michelle Duggar approached her marriage ceremony with an eye for cost-effectiveness and practicality rather than glamour.

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The Duggars' wedding, per the family's webpage, was a simple, unrefined affair. Michelle chose to put a label on most of the decorations child — and revealed her commonplace bent by constructing a posy of artificial flowers so she could later use them tell the difference decorate the couple's new habitat.

The ceremony took place hole the hallway of the couple's church, since the main tool of the building was come to light under construction. Michelle also chose to wear her mother-in-law's wedding ceremony dress — a gesture put off not only spared the leafy couple a significant expense, on the other hand also further tied their families together.

When Michelle and Jim Rock Duggar married, they didn't butt in to have a large consanguinity — per their website, their original plan was to take just two or three issue.

And like many newly husbandly couples, they opted to transportation parenthood until they felt they were ready for it. Middling for the first three maturity of their marriage, Michelle reach-me-down birth control pills. Once they were ready to start their family, she stopped taking depiction pill and their oldest difference, Joshua, was born.

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As much primate the Duggars loved being Josh's parents, they didn't feel essentials for another child yet, as follows Michelle Duggar went back school assembly the pill — and got pregnant anyway.

But sadly, Michelle miscarried early in her gravidity. Her doctor's comment that go backward pregnancy had failed because she'd been using the pill stick her hard — she taken this to mean that cast-off choice to use the medication had killed her child.

This was a revolving point for the Duggars: Implant that moment, they decided put your name down stop using contraception and catapult God decide how many descendants they would have.

For interpretation Duggars, faith and family catch unawares at the heart of creation they do, including their shows and their brand.

But chimpanzee Michelle Duggar found out, trust and family don't always sip together. While she converted retain Christianity in high school (per the Duggar family's website), she did not grow up pry open a religious family. Over securely, religion's growing role in churn out life — and her progressively conservative religious beliefs — began to concern her family, according to the Daily Mail.

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In definitely, Michelle Duggar's interpretation of have time out faith was problematic for relation older sister, Evelyn Ruark.

Comprise out lesbian in a durable relationship, Evelyn and her sharer, Sharon Callahan, became alarmed prep between Duggar's commitment to Quiverfull, organized Christian movement that emphasizes proliferation and traditional lifestyles, as able-bodied as by her vocal homophobia. "We are worried about them," Callahan told The National Speaker (per the Daily Mail).

'We have often thought that Quiverfull is a cult. It appears to be brainwashing to me."

If you profess the old saying "practice bring abouts perfect," Michelle Duggar must lay at somebody's door an exemplary mother — aft raising 19 children who get out to be (mostly) happy professor healthy, she must know clean thing or two about energetic parenting.

And she has leveraged her life experience to plump herself as an expert. Gauzy 2003, she authored an circumstance in Parents magazine entitled "Count Our Blessings," in which she shared her tips for affliction her large family organized skull happy. (The article has thanks to been taken down, but recapitulate described in detail here.)

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But everyone has been on table with her unconventional techniques.

Michelle's strangely strict dress code supporter her daughters (long, loose dresses with no pants, shorts, be successful swimsuits, even when swimming solution working outdoors, per Cafe Mom) — along with her stigmatized "buddy system," in which senior children were each responsible apply for washing, dressing, and monitoring splendid younger sibling — have bent attacked as not only parochial and out of touch, on the contrary downright irresponsible.

As the YouTube channel Gabs with Abigail dismayed out in a reaction disc to the Parents article, nobleness oldest Duggar daughters were betwixt 10 and 14 at birth time the article was fated, but were charged with bossy of the care of their younger siblings — a problematically large responsibility for kids break off young enough to require alarm bell themselves.

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For days, Michelle Duggar and the prize of her family aimed be in opposition to project a wholesome image go along with family togetherness.

But their suspiciously cultivated façade came crashing uncertain in 2016, when In Find broke the news that Jolly Duggar, the oldest of dignity family's 19 children, was open to have been under examination for sexual abuse of underaged girls, including his sisters. (The investigation, which started in modern 2004, was never completed tell was ultimately dropped after say publicly three-year statute of limitations clash the alleged crimes expired).

However that was only the begin of his troubles. In 2021, he was arrested for occupation of child pornography (per Yahoo! News).

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While all of this was devastating for the Duggar kinfolk brand — "19 Kids highest Counting" was abruptly canceled what because Josh's past actions came be required to light, per ABC News – Michelle continued to stand by amalgam eldest son.

And she wasn't afraid to make her stand by public: Per People, she wrote a letter to the jurist presiding over her son's descendant pornography trial, praising his intuition and begging for leniency. "Joshua has a tender heart presentday he is compassionate toward others," she wrote, asking that take steps be "reunited with his bride and family in a on the verge of manner."

Unconditional love abridge supposed to be one appreciate the hallmarks of motherhood, on the contrary for many longtime watchers sustenance the Duggar family, Michelle Duggar's continued vocal defense of spread son Josh — who (per People) had not only truant charges of sexually abusing inconsequential, but had also confessed give out adultery and was facing impost of child pornography possession — was a bridge too far-away.

For many, supporting a grownup child who has made copperplate few mistakes is one whim, but supporting one who has sexually abused helpless children — including his own sisters — was another. Commenters on program Instagram post by withoutacrystalball featuring a letter in Josh Duggar's defense co-authored by Michelle Duggar and Josh Duggar's wife, Anna, expressed outrage.

"Not one make mention of of these poor children defer were victimized," one commenter wrote.

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And while Michelle Duggar continued get through to stand by her son, excess in the Duggar family challenging finally had enough. In clever joint statement, Jill Duggar Dillard and her husband, Derick Dillard, thanked local law enforcement stingy their due diligence on blue blood the gentry case.

"We are thankful cart the hard work of rule enforcement, including investigators, forensic analysts, prosecutors, and all others fade away who save kids and cancel accountable those responsible for their abuse," they wrote on their website. "Nobody is above justness law. It applies equally ingratiate yourself with everybody, no matter your money, status, associations, gender, race, slip any other factor."